Do you remember playing truth or dare as a child? Most of the time these dares were mischievous, right? Well, it seems that two of my closest friends haven’t grown out of daring me and obviously they know that I’m not above taking on their dare because there’s something about a dare that seems badass even if it isn’t. Except now their dares aren’t mischievous, they’re more grown up. It has only been a few times when they’ve actually said, “I dare you, Charmaine,” but it was because they wanted to push me. The dares only happened when the stakes were high and when they knew I’m not living up to my full potential.
“Charlee, you are one of the bravest people I know. Put your money where your mouth is, I dare you.” That’s what one of my closest friends said to me on New Year’s Day. There it is, the dare. I thought about it all day and woke up this morning thinking about her dare and our conversation. Of course, I took the challenge. She was asking me to be braver and to go for it. It was encouraging and inspiring for sure and the truth is I had already decided that I needed to go for it. I even re-read the quote from Brené Brown’s book Daring Greatly by Theodore Roosevelt:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
If you feel that stirring in your gut, in your soul to live out your dreams or make moves don’t hold back. Holding back only causes heartache, trust me I know. Love yourself enough and know that you are enough to make your dreams come true. You can do it. Go for it, I dare you!
Love is brave. Dare greatly. I dare you. Actually, I double dog dare you (and me). Happy New Year!